Loneliness describes a complex experience, the subjective incongruence between one’s desired and perceived social connections. The study of loneliness has increased but mostly through quantitative methods, leaving a gap in the personal experience and understanding of what it means to be lonely. The everyday language used to articulate the personal experience of loneliness remains underexamined. To address this gap, we conducted 18 semi-structured life story interviews with older adult mental health service users. Interviews were conducted via telephone and lasted on average 45 min. Participants were included on the basis of being objectively classified as lonely and ranged in age from 66 to 84. This paper provides a thematic analysis of responses to the question “What does loneliness mean to you?” Responses include subjective and objective aspects, as well as frequency, duration, and intensity, and social, emotional, and existential loneliness. Loneliness is a multidimensional, personal experience, rather than a single construct. Participants discussed loneliness alongside social isolation, depression, grief, feelings of emptiness, purpose, meaning, boredom and hopelessness. These insights are important for informing how we frame loneliness in research, policy, and practice, and for highlighting that our language needs to be sufficiently inclusive to capture the complexity of loneliness, not only for work with mental health service users but in public health.
O’Sullivan et al. (Sat,) studied this question.